Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past two weeks, you’ve heard all of the controversy surrounding Phil Robertson’s GQ interview and A&E’s subsequent decision to fire him. I, for one, managed to avoid (for the most part) all Duck Dynasty related dialogue over the Christmas holiday and even took a hiatus from social media so I wouldn’t have to deal with it. However, like everyone else, I have managed to form an opinion on the matter. So if you’re tired of reading/ hearing everyone’s opinion, skip this blog entry and come join me another time. But, if you’re curious to see what a southern, Baptist, Republican bisexual has to say on the matter – please, keep reading.
Just a few things to start off with: 1) I have never watched Duck Dynasty. 2) I’m not quite sure why everyone was so surprised when a bearded, 67-year-old man from Louisiana, who is a staunch Christian and refers to himself as the “Duck Commander” said that he thought homosexuality was a sin. 3) A&E, who makes money off this man’s identity and gives him a platform from which to talk about his spirituality, definitely shouldn’t have been surprised. 4) This has nothing to do with the First Amendment. 5) While his comments were crude, as my grandfather’s would likely be if he were asked the same question, they definitely do not qualify as hate speech. 6) Tolerance is a word that we only use if we feel like we’re being wronged, but you should probably not expect us to tolerate you if your opinion happens to be different. 7) If the church were halfway as concerned about the souls of men as they are about homosexuality, there would be a lot less blood on our hands when we stand before God.
I am a Christian. I was “born again” at a young age and have remained extremely active in my local church. And while I personally struggle with certain passages of scripture and the feelings that I have inside, I can understand why individuals, like my parents, believe homosexuality is a sin, or as so many like to call it, an abomination. What I don’t understand is why those two verses in Leviticus and that one in Deuteronomy outweigh every other “abomination” that’s mentioned in the Bible. Let’s see, we have adultery and fornication (we won’t even get started on the whole “he hath committed adultery with her in his heart” verse), a false balance, the thought of foolishness, pride, lying lips, he that soweth discord among the brethren (oops), etc. If anyone is able to enlighten me on this subject, please do.
I am also bisexual, or something of the sort. I’m not really big on titles, but what I do know is that while I have dated many men, I have only been in love with one person, and she happened to be female. Spoiler alert: I wanted to marry her. I loved her, thought she was “the one”, and wanted our love to be as “valid” as that of my heterosexual parents. Now, obviously that didn’t happen. And I’ve had some wonderful, some not so wonderful, experiences with both men and women since then. So, I can’t say that it doesn’t bother me when my grandmother goes on a rant about the “gays ruining our country”. It does, and it hurts a lot. But that doesn’t mean that I love or respect her any less. If I want my family to love and respect my opinion, I cannot give them any less. There will be many times that I will disagree with them and many times that they will disagree with me, but that’s what makes freedom, and America, so great.
I love this nation. I’m blessed to live in a place where I can love who I love without facing legal consequences, where Phil Robertson can serve his Lord to the best of his ability and answer a question honestly, and where a company has the liberty to release someone if that individual’s actions are not promoting the values of their corporation. One day, I’d like to say that I’m blessed to live in a country whose churches value souls more than the continuous targeting of someone’s “sin” and where the left’s fight for “tolerance” didn’t just apply to their own.