I like to say that I’m not a relationship-oriented person. But that’s not true. True, I haven’t had much luck with my former relationships and they all seem to have a hard time lasting more than three months, but that doesn’t mean I don’t want one. See, I think we all, if we’re honest with ourselves, want a relationship. We want to have that one person who we can trust to be there for us when the going gets tough. But then you give someone a chance, try to convince yourself that the person is much more compatible for you than they really are; and the next thing you know, you’re either stuck in a relationship that you should have never been in, or you’re ending a relationship and wondering how it ever came about in the first place.
Republican National Committee – I’m looking at you. Yes, you. I get your emails on a daily basis. I vote in all of your straw polls. I read the Drudge Report and watch Fox News. I carry your flag with pride (probably a lot more than I should). But, sometimes… Sometimes, you blow my mind.
When Mr. Priebus (or one of his interns) decided that the RNC wanted to know what issues were important to the American people, I was excited. If more people wasted time during their work day filling out the survey, maybe the RNC’s platform committee would focus more on issues that matter. You know, like healthcare (an alternative to ObamaCare would be nice at some point), immigration reform, job creation, and drawing red lines that we won’t enforce… But instead the two biggest “I believe that…” statements that stuck out to me most were these:
- Families and communities should be strong and free from government intrusion
- Institution of traditional marriage is the foundation of society
Yes, yes, and more yes on that first one. Oh, but wait. The Republican party wants our families and communities to be strong and free from government intrusion as long as none of those families and none of the members of that community happen to be gay. In that case, sorry. We want to keep the government out of our our bank accounts and our gun safes; but damn it, they better be in Adam and Steve’s bedroom down the street.
A long time ago, the Republican party entered into a domestic partnership with the traditional marriage advocates (I hesitate to refer to them as the “religious right” because I still consider myself to fall into that category). We were concerned about the direction our nation was going – government was getting bigger and bigger, individual liberty and responsibility were fading, and the “American dream” was changing. So we spoke out for individual liberty and we fought to give the freedoms we enjoyed to others around the world. But all the while, we made an exception. We wedded ourself to a movement whose core compromised and opposed our fight for liberty and freedom. We made a personal exception for big government when it came to our neighbor’s sex life and fought against it when it tried to get involved in immigration reform.
But now, it’s not just about our neighbor’s sex life. Because most of us have realized this isn’t just about sex – it’s about Americans having the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. It’s about the right of all Americans to be who they are, without having to hide in the closet or sit in a different section of the bus. And, it’s not just our neighbor anymore. It’s our brothers, our sisters, our sons and daughters. And it’s personal.
The Republican party entered into a relationship with “traditional” marriage advocates because it was convenient. Because it gave us more voters, and passionate ones at that. But that relationship has run its course. Our two hearts were never going in the same direction, our goals were never their goals, and our fight for liberty was never theirs. It is past time for the Republican National Committee to part ways with its traditional marriage partners and to do its part to guarantee “liberty and justice for all” without a sexual orientation disclaimer at the end.
I recently went through a breakup (surprise, surprise). While it hurt like hell, I can’t help but look back at that relationship, thank God for the lessons it taught me, and thank God for the future I have ahead of me. See, regardless of how “bad” I may be at relationships, I’m even worse at relationships when my significant other and I are running in opposite directions. My breakup wasn’t easy, and Mr. Priebus – yours won’t be either, but it was for the best. Now, I’m moving on. It’s time the Grand Old Party did too.